Kelly Rowland “Motivation”

If you are looking for a song to start things off, look no further. Kelly Rowland’s “Motivation” is a slow jam with a good rhythm. Turn on this song, and your man will have all the motivation he needs to take things a step further.

Baby Bash “Suga Suga”

Some songs just never lose their appeal. Let him know he’s got you lifted. “Suga Suga” is one of those throwbacks that sets the stage for a fun night and makes you feel like one of those ultra-sexy music video vixens.

Beyoncé “Drunk in Love”

Any playtime list would be incomplete without Beyoncé. This R&B/ Hip-Hop hit has a slower rhythm with plenty of bass and sexy lyrics. Beyoncé’s “Drunk in Love” is definitely one of the best current songs for the bedroom or for setting the mood over a glass of wine. It keeps a good pace but won’t have you rushing through anything.

Justin Timberlake “That Girl”

A sexy love song à la Justin Timberlake? Yes, please. “That Girl” is lyrically heart melting and the pace changes consistently throughout the song to keep things fresh. It is a slow jam and a catchy pop tune rolled into one!

Nine Inch Nails “Closer”

If you need something darker in your playtime playlist, this Nine Inch Nails hit is sexual and even a little disturbing. In fact, it is surprising that lyrics this dirty ever made it onto the radio at all. If your beau is into rock, this can really intensify your night.

The Weeknd “Wicked Games”

It might not be the most fitting song for a relationship, but to get a hot and heavy night started, it definitely serves the purpose. Plus, isn’t there something strangely romantic about the “only for one night” idea?

Rihanna “Rude Boy”

There are few things in this world sexier than Rihanna. “Rude Boy” is a sexual and upbeat pop song that will give you plenty of lust and energy. Then again, that Barbadian voice could probably sing anything and make it the sexiest song you have ever heard. If in doubt, just play Rihanna.

Jeremih “Birthday Sex”

Of course this quintessential modern-day sex song has a place on your playlist. It doesn’t even have to be your birthday for this song to set the mood. But, if you do happen to planning a birthday celebration, it’s even better.

Drake “Best I Ever Had”

What playtime list would be complete without a little Drake? We all know his smooth voice and this catchy tune is sure to lead things in the right direction, and if you really are with the best you have ever had, what better way to let them know?

Katy Perry “Dark Horse”

This is one to keep around for speeding things up. Smooth contemporary R&B songs are a given, but a good dance track keeps things interesting. It is also the perfect song to make you feel supernaturally sexy. Of course you are the focus of his attention, but it doesn’t hurt to be reminded.

Beyonce “XO”

Beyonce’s “XO” is a less overtly sexual song than many on this list, but it definitely earns the spot. A sweet slow song takes you back to the days of simple, innocent dating. Sure, you want your beau to know that the lust is there, but focusing on the love isn’t going to slow things down.

Portishead “Glory Box”

The song is best known for the line, “Give me a reason to love you.” That’s a pretty sexy starting point. The jazzy instrumentals will have you feeling like a vintage bombshell, and we all know that confidence is really the key to great sex

Ellie Goulding “Burn”

This song is a soft and sweet poppy addition. It has a quicker tempo than most of the other songs on the list, so it’s good for switching things up. Plus, who doesn’t love Ellie Goulding? That sweet voice will serenade you right into the bedroom.

Usher “Seduction”

The title says it all, doesn’t it? A song about seduction in addition to Usher’s voice equals the ultimate playtime music. Smooth and sexy, this song will have your S.O. sweeping you off your feet and into the bedroom. Even if you haven’t mastered the art of seduction, just playing this track will get you halfway there.

Rihanna “Skin”

This sensual song has a good beat but keeps things nice and slow. Of course, all this talk about skin could progress your night a bit faster than the tempo. A great addition to your playtime playlist, this song belongs at the beginning, complete with a striptease.

Published in the Fall 2014 Issue of Runway

This beautiful city gives many choices when it comes to hotels and resorts, so that you can experience the best of what this locale has to offer. If you are looking for a relaxing getaway and ample amenities, check out the Coral Cliff Hotel & Casino. The Coral Cliff has created a unique entertainment environment never before seen in the Caribbean. Themed to create a tropical jungle fantasyland feel, the concept of this beautiful hotel is mirrored throughout the rooms, events, shows and overall services. The theme reflects the story of a mermaid’s adventure from the crystal waters to an enchanted jungle. Located in the heart of Montego Bay’s “Hip Strip”, the hotel is surrounded by nightlife, powder-soft white sand beaches, activities, and attractions. Whatever your agenda includes, we bet that this hotel would fit the bill.

If you are looking for a quiet, romantic atmosphere, the Secrets Wild Orchid Montego Bay Resort has a peaceful, quiet, romantic feel. This beautiful hotel may be just the place for a romantic getaway for two. Secrets Wild Orchid is home to its own private peninsula with over a mile of beach, tropical views, and crystal clear waters. This vibrant resort offers the ultimate getaway for excitement, romance, and fun and is sure to satisfy the need for a luxury experience.

If you have specific activities planned for your vacation, whether they fall into the category of a solo adventure, family fun, or romance, there is a place that can surely hit all your check marks. If you are a wine lover, check out the Altamont West Hotel. This newly re-renovated boutique hotel is located on Montego Bay’s famous Hip Strip, just across from Walter Fletcher Beach. The hotel is proud to be the home of a multi award-winning restaurant and wine bar, Wine with Me, the first of its kind in Montego Bay. The hotel itself offers luxurious amenities and hosts the Body Bliss Spa, one of the most sought after rejuvenation and relaxation experiences in Jamaica. With fine dining, spas, and wine bars at your fingertips, your dream vacation awaits. The beautiful hotel is within walking distance to all the popular Jamaican landmarks, which make Altamont the complete resort experience.

The location is the perfect place to lay your head and refresh for days spent exploring this beautiful city and all of its roots. With over 635 miles of coastline, there is surely a beach for every bum. From pure white sand to black sanded surfs, if you are in Montego Bay, make sure you reserve a few hours to check out Doctors Cave Beach, as it is one of the most famous beaches in Montego Bay. This beautiful, golden-sanded beach that opened in the early 1900’s still remains today. The beach can be accessed only through a cave, which is how the beach landed its name. If family-friendly or couple activities are on your agenda, this beach is perfect. Doctors Cave is known for its tropical, metropolitan feel and provides a perfect place to enjoy the Caribbean. See colored tropical fish as they swim up to the surface of the turquoise shores to say hello. Visitors who are looking for daytime water activities and a social atmosphere will especially enjoy the offerings of Doctors Cave beach.

Another option if you are looking for a more romantic private experience is to take a picnic and enjoy a romantic meal under the stars. Many hotels will even pack a picnic basket for you to enjoy. From beaches and shopping, to dining and nightlife, a visit to the Bay’s famous Hip Strip will be sure to enhance your Jamaican experience.

If you are looking for a bite to eat after a day at the beach, choose from award winning, authentic restaurants that are all nearby on the Strip. Enjoy true Jamaican cuisine at The Pelican, or if you want the best of the best seafood, try Le Chalet. Marguerites also delivers an amazing dining experience.

Once the stars are out and the nightlife begins, enjoy a few cocktails on Hip Strip. It has adopted the name The Hip Strip with good reason. Located on Gloucester Avenue, and featuring multiple bars, clubs and restaurants, this busy social environment guarantees a good time. If you’re looking for dinner and drinks, and want to feel close to home, stop into the classic Margaritaville. After dinner, you can head next door and enjoy some music and libations at Blue Beat. A whimsical, more upscale setting that features blue lighting, jazz music and comfortable couches and loungers.

Before you go, a must-see on the list is a visit to Pier One. This long and narrow pier leads you straight to the ocean, and promises beautiful views. They also host an event know as “Pier Pressure” on Friday nights with lively music and fun crowds.

Whatever you find on your itinerary when making a visit to beautiful Montego Bay, you are sure to make some amazing memories.

Published in the Fall 2014 Issue

Since the first time a bra strap slipped down the bare shoulder of a woman or a flash of lace was spotted under layers of clothing, men have been obsessed with the idea of what women are wearing under their clothes. They have fantasized endlessly about their women showing up unannounced in sassy vixen getups or acting like the innocent girl next door in a baby doll negligee. It is quite possible the intrigue lies in the idea that it is something you are wearing for them and them alone, something that no one else will see. Or it could be the fact that it is like the wrapping on a present and they can’t wait to see what’s under it. Either way, if you ever want to drive your man crazy or just want to feel a little bit more va-va-voom, try playing with lingerie to spice up your sex life or your look.

Lace, much like the little black dress at a cocktail party, is a timeless classic. It is ultra-feminine, perfect for camouflaging problem areas and can be worn in various styles. From matching lace bra and panty sets to a full lace bodice that leaves all of the best parts slightly exposed, both options can tenderly tease your lover. In that same ageless category are the thigh-high garters or stockings. Pair them with bras and panties, a teddy or nothing at all if you are feeling brave, to create instant hotness and desirability.

If you are indeed feeling bold and daring, try a leather piece. Many designers right now are playing with different designs and peeka-boo cuts showing skin in all the right places. Don’t shy away from things like lace-up bodices, boots, gloves or corsets – it’s fun to make your guy work for the prize and it gives you a chance to channel your inner Xena, taking charge of your sexiness. There is just something about that feeling of leather that makes you feel like you can handle anything, anywhere, anytime. Plus, the time it takes to actually untie that corset or get out of those boots builds up the sexual tension.

If the whole dominatrix, leather and lace thing isn’t your vibe, and you are normally just a cotton underwear-wearing type, try boosting your collection with some bright and sassy colors like hot pink, lime green or zesty orange. You will catch his eye for sure and look good enough to eat. An investment in a good push up bra is always a nice enhancement as well. All of us ladies can use a good boost every now and again, so find a color that looks great on your skin-tone. This is an especially fun option if you two are traveling to a tropical destination or taking a weekend getaway.

Baby dolls are also a traditional, more conservative option. Many times women feel more at ease due to the looser fit and it offers more of a breezy, whimsical sexiness than some of the other more obvious choices. With a wide selection of patterns, textures, colors and mix and match options available, it is easy to find something that compliments your body and mood. Subtle, soft sex appeal is not lost on men and will definitely have them treating you like the angel you will appear to be. A woman’s wedding day is always the perfect occasion to wear lingerie. Some phenomenal bridal designers out there specialize in pieces specifically for this magical time.

Journelle and Claire Pettibone design couture and luxury lingerie, while others do custom designs to make sure your piece fits your body perfectly. Classic white or anything in pearl tones is always a beautiful choice. Whether you actually waited until the night of your wedding or not, it will be a symbolic and memorable experience for both of you that you will remember for the rest of your days of wedded bliss. He will also appreciate the extra effort.

In addition to romantic milestones such as your wedding day, your honey’s birthday, and of course, Valentine’s Day, don’t forget that sometimes the best things come as a surprise. Choose a random Tuesday night, show up at his doorstep in a super seductive get up, and you will not only make his night, but probably the rest of his month. Plus, it is a great way to give yourself a dose of confidence if you are feeling undesirable. No one can feel unattractive in a black lace bra, no one. If you have some money to burn, check out the designer boutique Faire Frou Frou, which in French means, “to show off”. Other good options include, Pleasuremants, specializing in erotic fantasies, British label Agent Provocateur, and Bordelle, seen in many fashion magazines and on many top celebs like Lady Gaga.

If you are in a hurry and just want to dash into your local mall, Victoria’s Secret has been a go-to for years, serving up sexy selections at reasonable prices. There is simply no excuse not to look and feel sexy in lingerie every day!

Published in the Fall 2014 Issue

What defines an open relationship in modern times? That’s actually a more complicated question than most would think. There are many different types of open relationships—from swingers (committed partners who engage in sexual activities recreationally or socially), to hybrid relationships (one partner is monogamous and the other is not), and multi-partner (3 or more relationships that may or may not be involved with the others).

We live in a society filled with judgment and criticism for decisions we make in our lives. Maybe you’ve contemplated an open relationship before, but are unsure of what it entails, how it will affect you and your partner, or what your friends and family will think. Some couples have opened their minds to such relationships for reasons that can be damaging to themselves and/or their partner.

Many men (and plenty of women) want to have their cake and eat it too; thinking it would be amazing to have all the sex they want, with as many different women (or men) as possible. Many of these people, though, want to explore other lovers, but can’t handle their partner with someone else. Jealousy, insecurity, and neglect can be negative side effects from polyamory (meaning “many loves”, a broader term than polygamy, which more often refers to multiple marriages). However, there are many people, including counselors, life coaches, and celebrities championing for these types of relationships. Miami rapper, Pitbull gloats about his open relationship, while people, like Robyn Trask, the director of the polyamory not-for-profit organization, LoveMore.com, have turned their lifestyles into work.

Author Dan Savage, who calls his marriage to his husband “monogamish” (predominantly monogamous, but without restrictions), raves about his and other happy, freeing relationships.Skeptics call polyamorists immoral, sexaholics, and liars. There is no possible way an open relationship won’t end in disaster, they say. Leon Feingold from OpenLoveNY.com says his open relationships are non-competitive, and are all about making yourself, and your partners, happy. Robyn Trask (LoveMore.com) says being open has made her self-aware, less jealous and more communicative in her three relationships.

Now that we’ve established the history and existence of successful open relationships, how do you know if it’s the right road for you? This is a very personal decision that should be discussed honestly and in detail with your partner. There are many reasons an open relationship might be an option for you. As many felt during the free love movement that dates back to the 19th century, and boomed in the 1960s, a committed relationship can feel suffocating and like slavery to some. Traditional marriages are generally based on being with one person for the rest of your life, regardless of desire and need. For many people, monogamy is unattainable. Statistics show fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, mostly due to infidelity, which gives polyamorists just cause for their lifestyle choice.

When you consider how people vary, and how much a person can change over time, it can be frustrating as a couple to grow together, and hope your wants and needs stay in sync with one another. Open relationships allow couples to explore companionship, intellectual and sexual variety, without expecting their partner to change or forcing them to stay the same. By the way, yes, I did say intellectual variety. For most open relationships, it isn’t just about sex; it’s about connecting with other individuals and having the freedom to do so.

If you and your partner agree you would like to try an open relationship, there are some lengthy discussions that should happen first. Communication, trust, and honesty, as in

any relationship, are key.Establishing boundaries is probably the most important step. How far are each of you allowed to go with another person? Kissing? Sex? Casual dates? Vacations together? Is your partner allowed to have sex with someone else in the bed you share together? Should you only get involved with strangers, or are mutual acquaintances acceptable?

Another topic of discussion should be discretion. Do you want to know the dirty details? Maybe that’s a fetish of yours. Or maybe, you prefer not to know any details at all. A trickier topic is; what happens if you develop feelings for another person? Are you both able to handle that possibility? Would youbbe able to share with someone else? How do you feel about your partner willing to share you? These are all things one might say they are initially comfortable with, but in reality, can’t handle them.

When deciding if an open relationship is right for you, you must consider your partner’s feelings at all times, respect the boundaries set, and make sure you make time for one another. Nurturing your relationship together, while spending time with other people, will be what makes your open relationship a successful one.

Obviously, polyamory is not for everyone. If you know someone in an open relationship, though, try not to pass judgment on something that might work really well for them. It doesn’t have to be seen as sleazy or promiscuous; it’s just a different lifestyle that doesn’t affect anyone, but the people involved.

Published in the Fall 2014 issue of RUNWAY

The anatomy of men and women’s private parts is definitely a topic of discussion. When it comes to the female form, men are most fascinated by the clitoris. Scientifically, there have been debates on if this even existed and, if you can believe this, it has been debated for over thousands of years. This certainly reflects the wonderment that many have. The clitoris is associated to orgasms by stimulation during the dirty deed.

To be honest, and this was to our surprise, we ran across women that were not entirely sure of the purpose of the clitoris or that it even had a name. I am sure you have heard the question, “does size matter?” This also leads directly to the other associated question, “the bigger, the better?” The first reference normally is associated to the man’s anatomy, referring specifically to the organ. For appearance purposes only, you would think longer is better, but truthfully, it is not the length that matters the most. Often it is how the tool is used. And experience and knowledge of how to use it will rule size any day.

Now when it comes to the size of a woman’s anatomy we look at the bosom. A woman’s breasts are a wildly cherished and sought after object on a woman. Now you might not believe this, but the “perfect” size for a woman’s breasts is strictly based on opinion. Men prefer a wide range in breast size, as some go with the “bigger is better” notion, while others prefer a smaller chest.

“Spanking the monkey” and “buttering the muffin” topped the list of our favorite references when it comes to another undercover topic that is brought up only with the best of friends. We of course are talking about male and female masturbation. The myth behind this solo act is that, if you do it too much, it could lead to blindness. Well there really isn’t any truth to this claim, it can only occur in the rare instance of a man experiencing temporary blindness as a result of the actual orgasm. If an orgasm is intense, it can cause blood vessels in the eye to become stressed and constrained, causing blinding pressure as well as symptoms related to strokes. A scary thought, but a rarity, so you can let go of your fears that this really happens.

Now here is a freaky fact, did you know that it is possible to be with another so closely during intercourse, that you might actually not be able to separate? There have been known instances of individuals who have had to be medically separated due to the force of their sexual movements. Now, wouldn’t that be an embarrassing 911 call?

Visual stimulation used to be mostly attributed to men versus women; however, several studies have shown that women are just as stimulated visually as men and maybe even more. This leads us to the topic of porn, and if it improves one’s experience individually or with their partner. The viewing of taboo films will often times help both women and men get into the mood, whether alone or together. So if it is something you and your partner are into, grab a DVD and get comfortable.

There are well over fifty sex myths; we have just touched the tip of the iceberg. So if you would like a topic of bedroom conversation, there are many avenues to explore. Enjoy your pleasurable pursuits as you delve more into this abyss of myth, fact, and fiction.

Published in the Fall 2014 Issue.